Better Prepare Ya for the C Support

Int’l Players Anthem (I Choose You)

Eeny meeny decisions, with precision I pick or

Make my selection on who I choose to be wit', girl

Don't touch my protection, I know you want it to slip

But slippin' is somethin' I don't do, tippin' for life

That's like makin' it rain every month on schedule

Let me tell you, get your parasol umbrella

'Cause it's gonna get wetter

Better prepare ya for the C support

She supposed to spend it on that baby, but we see she don't

- BIG BOI

How can you be mad at a baby mama trying to get the bag?

I am not sure how verse you are in pop-culture, so I will break down the gossip headlines: Eliza Reign, an Instagram model (whom I am not very knowledgeable about), has a child that she shares with the rapper Future. Eliza has been in the headlines recently since it was alleged that she asked for around $53K in child support. She was previously award $3,200 a month. Future, has six other children from past relationships. 

This was a hot topic on Instagram and I looked at a few comments and I found myself annoyed at some of the comments I was reading. “It don’t cost $53K to raise a child… she don’t need all that money… it don’t take that much to raise a child”. 

Here is my take: A woman has a child by a man who is wealthier than her. The child support should reflect his income. The child should not be punished for the parents not being together. So, the child should have the same resources as if he/she would have if the child lived with both parents: living in a safe community, access to a nanny, access to private schools, tutors, music lessons, traveling, health insurance, college fund, savings and more. I would question the mom if she didn’t go for the most money she could get. 

It is a piss poor excuse for a man or society to shame the mother as using the baby for a meal ticket. The man understands the consequences of having sex without a condom. If you don’t want to have a baby, you take the necessary precautions. Get your money Eliza. Make sure that baby is set for life.

When I started writing this, I thought I was going to research child support laws and add some complexity to the topic. But nah, just get your money sis. Future – invest in condoms or plan b.

I'm Dreaming The Hardest

“I used to think as I looked out on the Hollywood night — there must be thousands of girls sitting alone like me, dreaming of becoming a movie star. But I'm not going to worry about them. I'm dreaming the hardest.”

-Marilyn Monroe

I have been running from a topic that has consumed me. A topic that I didn't feel was truly attainable. There has been many times where I wanted to post about living your dreams and following your heart. And then I would look at my life and ask myself “When are you going to live your dreams?” And “Do you even know what your dreams are anymore?”

When I think of living my dreams, the first thought is quitting my job and traveling the world. Doing interviews, talking to anyone and everyone. Finding about their life. How is it to live where they live? Wake up in the home they live in? Eat the foods they eat? Speak their language? Witness their hardships. Witness their joys. To me, these experiences is what makes life worth living. Experiencing the world.

Just two days ago I came back from San Diego and it made me feel alive. Some world travelers may laugh at that fact that simply traveling to San Diego could bring me such joy. Well, yes... San Diego is not Paris, or Fiji or Thailand… but it was enough to get me out of my mundane routine. It was something fresh. It was the wind beneath my fucking wings. It was just what I needed.

I realized last year that I am my happiest when traveling. When I can be care free and enjoy the world around me. Even when I travel for work… I enjoy my job that much more.

DON'T DREAM YOUR LIFE. 

LIVE YOUR DREAM.

So, lately I have been looking for jobs with agencies that would allow me to travel for work. These agencies are prestigious... only Ivy League kids could dream about working at these places. But I am trying to remain optimistic. I want to be able to travel and get paid for it at the same time. I’ve been applying for jobs like this for about 5 months now with no luck. And at times, it gets a bit discouraging but I realized that all I need to do is get my foot in the door. If I keep applying, someone is bound to give me an interview. So I am doing what I need to do on my end to ensure that at the end of the day, whether I get a job or not with one of these agencies, I did my very best. The rest is in the hands of destiny.

Traveling isn’t my only dream… I have lots of them. I have dreams of spending my weekends in new places, painting, debating international affairs and maybe getting a leading role in The Game of Thrones. (How I wish to one day be a damsel in distress only to be rescued by Jon Snow… ha ha.)

I am realizing thanks to reading Crazy Black Girl's blog, Necole Bitches' blog and my friend (who has taken a leap of faith and changed here career path entirely) Ali's Fashion Sense blog, that a new year, a big dream, a hope and a prayer doesn't change anything. ACTION changes things.

I even have dreams about my future husband... In my dreams he is well traveled. He would introduce me to new people and expose me to different learning opportunities.  He would be financially secure, and just a good person all around. But I ask myself... will I be able to provide the same qualities to him? I want my future husband to speak another language… but shouldn't I speak another language as well? I have been learning French for over 10 years and I am still not fluent. C'est dommage! 

I need to make sure that I live up to my dreams. Be the best that I can be and do what I need to do on my part. You can't pray to win the lotto if you don't go buy the ticket.

But I'm still dreaming...

Dreaming about...

     Financial success...

          Happiness...

               Journalism...

                    Working in the field of international affairs...

                         And about one day having a husband... 

A family… Oh, yes... a family!!! Having a family is a huge dream of mines too! It often times feels like one of the most unattainable dreams that I have. And while I would like to say it is all up to the universe to allow me and my soul mate to meet each other… I believe I have some part in this too. If I want to meet him, I have to put myself out there. For any dream, any hope, any prayer…. I have to put myself out there. There is so much I want to do and so little time. The Year of 2015 alone isn't going to turn my life into some magical fairy tale. I am the director of this movie… I am the playwright. I will write my own ending of happily ever after. I will ensure that I do what I can to see my dreams come to fruition. 

Dreams do come true. Don't believe me? Just watch!!! 

 I'll keep you all posted. :)

(Sidenote: I wrote this in less than 30 minutes… your girl is fired up! Lol)